There is no two identical people in the world — not even identical twins. God created everyone to be different, in looks and personalities, and in gifts and talents. So really, it makes no sense to “box in” or categorize people into 16 “types” or 4 “temperaments,” but no doubt it is beneficial for us to study our own and others’ propensities, strengths and weaknesses, likes and dislikes, and value systems, as UNDERSTANDING is the foundation for blossoming relationships.
Here are some key points about the ISFJ personality type (taken from a variety of sources; summarized and modified):
Sometimes the best way to heal your own body, mind, heart, and spirit is to serve as a source of comfort and support to someone around you. Filling the bucket of someone else may replenish your own. — Nick Vujicic
“The ISFJ personality type is quite unique, as many of their qualities defy the definition of their individual traits. Though possessing the Feeling (F) trait, ISFJs have excellent analytical abilities; though Introverted (I), they have well-developed people skills and robust social relationships; and though they are a Judging (J) type, ISFJs are often receptive to change and new ideas. As with so many things, people with the ISFJ personality type are more than the sum of their parts, and it is the way they use these strengths that defines who they are.”
“ISFJS ARE TRUE ALTRUISTS, MEETING KINDNESS WITH KINDNESS-IN-EXCESS AND ENGAGING THE WORK AND PEOPLE THEY BELIEVE IN WITH ENTHUSIASM AND GENEROSITY.”
An ISFJ’s primary mode of living is focused internally, where she takes things in via her five senses in a literal, concrete fashion. Her secondary mode is external, where she deals with things according to how she feel about them, or how they fit into her personal value system.
An ISFJ lives in a world that is concrete and kind. She is truly warm and kind-hearted, and wants to believe the best of people. She values harmony and cooperation, and is sensitive to other people’s feelings. People value her for her consideration and awareness, and her ability to bring out the best in others by her firm desire to believe the best.
An ISFJ has a rich inner world that is not usually obvious to observers. She constantly takes in information about people and situations and stores it away. This tremendous store of information is usually startlingly accurate, because she has an exceptional memory about things that are important to her value systems. Don’t be surprised if she remembers a particular facial expression or conversation in precise detail years after the event occurred — it means that the situation made an impression on her.
An ISFJ has a very clear idea of the way things should be, which she strives to attain. She values security and kindness, and respects traditions and laws. She tends to believe that existing systems are there because they work. Therefore, she’s not likely to buy into doing things in a new way, unless she’s shown in a concrete way why it’s better than the established method.
An ISFJ has an extremely well-developed sense of space, function, and aesthetic appeal.This special ability, combined with her sensitivity to other’s feelings and desires, makes her a good gift-giver – finding the right gift which will be truly appreciated by the recipient.
An ISFJ is extremely aware of her own internal feelings, as well as other people’s feelings.She does not usually express her own feelings, keeping things inside. If they are negative feelings, they may build up inside her until they turn into firm judgments against individuals which are difficult to unseed, once set. Once an ISFJ learns to express herself, she will most definitely find outlets for her powerful emotions.
An ISFJ feels a strong sense of responsibility and duty. She takes responsibilities very seriously, and can be counted on to follow through. For this reason, people naturally tend to rely on her. The ISFJ has a difficult time saying “no” when asked to do something, and may become over-burdened. In such cases, the ISFJ does not usually express her difficulties to others, because she intensely dislikes conflict, and because she tends to place other people’s needs over her own. The ISFJ needs to learn to identify, value, and express her own needs, if she wishes to avoid becoming over-worked and taken for granted.
An ISFJ needs positive feedback from others. In the absence of positive feedback, or in the face of criticism, the ISFJ gets discouraged, and may even become depressed. She has a tendency to underplay her accomplishments and therefore needs reassurance that her work is seen and appreciated.
An ISFJ is warm, generous, and dependable. She has many special gifts to offer, in her sensitivity to others, and her strong ability to keep things running smoothly. She needs to remember to not be overly critical of herself, and to give herself some of the warmth and love which she freely give others.
What you’ll appreciate about ISFJs: The way that they sit with you in silence. Their vastness of their compassion. The tiny details they take in and remember. The space they make for others to shine. The practicality they exercise through bad times, and the humility they exercise in good. The way they live their lives with both feet on the ground. The care and love they pour into every new place until they turn it into a home.